...daaa kuna demu mmoja nilimdanganyaga naxoma chuo IFM kumbe na yy anasoma pale pale
Kesho yake asubuhi na mapema akaja kunipitia twende chuo akamkuta mama
Demu......shikamoo mama
Mama cox......marahaba binti hujambo
Demu......sijambo mama nimemkuta cox dawa yao
Mama cox.....ndo nan huyo mbna mm simjui alikuambia anakaa hapa?
Demu......ndiyo ni mkaka mmoja hivi mfupi ana kichwa kikubwa anapenda sana kuvaa tishet ya voda
Mama cox.....ahaaa huyo ni mwanangu anaitwa CHOGO NDIZI sio COX DAWA YAO hilo jina kakudanganya una shida naye??
Demu....duuu ndiyo nimempitia twende chuo
Mama cox.....uwww chuo gani tena kashakudanganya yupo chuo muongo yule
mwanangu kashazoea kudanganya wanawake anawapa sana mimba watoto wa watu
hana lolote hasomi wala nn tumempeleka chuo cha ufundi cherehani
kakataa sasa hivi anatengeneza baiskeli mbele hapo
Demu ....daaa kweli mama
Mama cox....twende nkupeleke anapotengenezea baiskeli
Daaa mama kamleta hadi kilingeni demu kanikuta naziba pancha nimetupa
tairi nimetoka nduki sina hamu aisee nimelia sana mama kaniharibia demu
kanitukana sana kwenye simu daaa
Wednesday, April 24, 2013
WATANZANIA KWA KUPENDA SIFA.
Mtanzania, Mnyarwanda, na Mkenya walikamatwa na madawa ya kulevya
China. Wakaambiwa adhabu ni mbili kifo au adhabu nyingine ambayo
wakiishindwa pia wanauawa. Wakaomba wapewe hiyo adhabu nyingine wajaribu
bahati yao. Wakapelekwa msituni wakaambiwa waingie msituni kila mmoja
kwa njia yake halafu kila mmoja arudi na matunda kumi ya kufanana.
Wakaingia msituni kila mtu njia yake.
Mnyarwanda akarudi wa kwanza. Karudi na maepo kumi. Akaambiwa adhabu ni
kuyameza yote mazima mazima moja baada ya jingine bila kufumba macho
bila kulia wala kucheka wala kujitikisa! Akameza la kwanza. Safi. Kumeza
la pili akashindwa kuvumilia akafumba macho. Akapigiwa risasi akafa.
Wa pili Mkenya akaja. Ana vitunda vidogo vidogoo. Kumi. Vya kufanana. Vidogo kama pipi. Akaambiwa masharti. Akaanza kula bila kufumbua macho wala kulia wala nini. Alipofika cha tisa akashindwa kuvumilia akaangua kicheko! Akapigwa risasi pia akafa. Wakiwa kuzimu Mnyarwanda akamuuliza Mkenya.. "Vipi wewe mbona ulishindwa kuvumilia wakati ulibakisha kitunda kimoja tu?" Mkenya akajibu: "Kaka, nilishindwa kuzuia kicheko maana nilimwona Mtanzania anakuja na matikiti maji!".....
Wa pili Mkenya akaja. Ana vitunda vidogo vidogoo. Kumi. Vya kufanana. Vidogo kama pipi. Akaambiwa masharti. Akaanza kula bila kufumbua macho wala kulia wala nini. Alipofika cha tisa akashindwa kuvumilia akaangua kicheko! Akapigwa risasi pia akafa. Wakiwa kuzimu Mnyarwanda akamuuliza Mkenya.. "Vipi wewe mbona ulishindwa kuvumilia wakati ulibakisha kitunda kimoja tu?" Mkenya akajibu: "Kaka, nilishindwa kuzuia kicheko maana nilimwona Mtanzania anakuja na matikiti maji!".....
Thursday, April 4, 2013
FAIDA YA KUMFAGILIA MUPENZI WAKO KWA MAMBO YA NDANI NA YA NJE ANAYOKUFANYIA!
mengi mazuri ambayo huenda mpenzi wako aliwahi kukufanyia, je uliwahi kumshukuru kwa kukufanya
ufarijike? Naamini Mungu amekujaalia kuwa na mpenzi mzuri, mwenye kila sifa ambayo
ulitamani awe nayo, je ulishawahi kumsifia hata kwa kumwambia ni mzuri?
Huenda ulishawahi kufanya hivyo lakini kwa taarifa yako wapo ambao wanahisi kufanya hivyo eti ni ulimbukeni. Ulimbukeni? Kumsifia mpenzi wako unaona ni ulimbukeni wakati wataalam wa masuala ya mapenzi wanaeleza kuwa, wanawake ni watu wanaopenda kusifiwa sana hata kwa madogo wanayoyafanya?
Unaona hatari gani kumsifia mpenzi wako kuwa ni mzuri? Unadhani unatumia nguvu gani kumsifia mpenzi wako kutokana na mahaba mazito anayokupata? Kwa taarifa yako unaweza kuona ni kitu kidogo sana lakini
madhara yake kwenye penzi ni makubwa.Kumsifia mpenzi wako kwa yale anayokufanyia kuna faida nyingi sana lakini kwa leo nitagusia chache Kwanza kunaongeza mapenzi.
Mume/mke anaposifiwa kuwa anajua mapenzi hata kama si kwa kiwango kikubwa, anafarijika sana. Unapomwambia mpenzi wako: ‘Dear nashukuru kwa mapenzi uliyonipa jana, umenipa furaha ya ajabu ambayo siamini kama kuna mtu mwingine wa kunipa, nakupenda sana’. Maneno kama haya hutumii
nguvu wala muda mwingi kuyafikisha kwa mpenzi wako lakini uzito wake ni mkubwa. Kwanza anajihisi aliyekamilika kwa kufikia hatua ya kufanya mambo yakamridhisha mpenzi wake na kwa mazingira hayo anaamini huwezi kumsaliti. Hisia hizo zitamfanya azidi kukupenda. Hilo ni kwa wote yaani kwa mwanaume na mwanamke. Lakini pia unapomsifia mpenzi wako kwa yale anayokufanyia, unamfanya aongeze kasi ya
kukufanyia ili nawe uzidi kumpenda. Kwa mfano, unapokutana na mpenzi wako kisha ukamwambia ‘umependeza kweli mpenzi wangu, nazidi kukupenda kwa unavyovaa’. Mtu anayeambiwa maneno haya
atajitahidi sana siku zote aonekane nadhifu na wa kuvutia kwa mpenzi wake akijua kwamba, akivaa ilimradi kuvaa hatamfurahisha mpenzi wake. Kwa maana hiyo kumsifia mpenzi wako kunamfanya azidi kuwa bora. Lakini kusifia kusiwe kwa kinafiki. Usimsifie mpenzi wako eti ili kumfanya ajione bora kumbe katika uhalisia siyo hivyo.
Tusifiane pale inapobidi huku tukijua kuwa kwa kufanya hivyo tutapata faida. Tusiwe na tabia ya kuchukulia poa kila tunachofanyiwa na wapenzi wetu. Kama kakuridhisha kimapenzi, msifie kwamba yeye ni muhimu kwako kwa kuwa amekupa ulichotarajia. Amekupikia chakula kizuri, msifie kuwa yeye ni mpishi mzuri. Hiyo italinogesha penzi na utashangaa kila siku inayokwenda kwa Mungu penzi lenu linachanua.
Lakini mbali na hayo, unatakiwa kuridhika kwa kile unachokipata kutoka kwa huyo mpenzi wako ulinaye kwa sasa. Najua kwenye uhusiano wengi tumetoka mbali. Wapo waliowahi kuwa na wapenzi zaidi ya mmoja huko nyuma na kila mmoja alikuwa na kiwango chake cha kukuridhisha.
Inawezekana kuna ambaye unamkumbuka kwa mapenzi mazito aliyokuwa anakupa zaidi ya huyo uliyenaye. Hiyo ni historia, imepita! Kama huyo uliyenaye si mtaalam sana wa kukufikisha pale unapopata, ridhika na hicho kidogo unachokipata endapo atakuwa anaonesha kukupenda kwa dhati.Mpe moyo, msifiesifie kidogo kwa hiyo furaha kiduchu anayokupa huku ukiamini kuwa, atabadilika kadiri siku zinavyokwenda.
Kumbuka cha msingi katika maisha yetu ni kumpata mtu mwenye mapenzi ya kweli na si kumpata anayeweza kukuridhisha katika mambo kadha wa kadha.
ulitamani awe nayo, je ulishawahi kumsifia hata kwa kumwambia ni mzuri?
Huenda ulishawahi kufanya hivyo lakini kwa taarifa yako wapo ambao wanahisi kufanya hivyo eti ni ulimbukeni. Ulimbukeni? Kumsifia mpenzi wako unaona ni ulimbukeni wakati wataalam wa masuala ya mapenzi wanaeleza kuwa, wanawake ni watu wanaopenda kusifiwa sana hata kwa madogo wanayoyafanya?
Unaona hatari gani kumsifia mpenzi wako kuwa ni mzuri? Unadhani unatumia nguvu gani kumsifia mpenzi wako kutokana na mahaba mazito anayokupata? Kwa taarifa yako unaweza kuona ni kitu kidogo sana lakini
madhara yake kwenye penzi ni makubwa.Kumsifia mpenzi wako kwa yale anayokufanyia kuna faida nyingi sana lakini kwa leo nitagusia chache Kwanza kunaongeza mapenzi.
Mume/mke anaposifiwa kuwa anajua mapenzi hata kama si kwa kiwango kikubwa, anafarijika sana. Unapomwambia mpenzi wako: ‘Dear nashukuru kwa mapenzi uliyonipa jana, umenipa furaha ya ajabu ambayo siamini kama kuna mtu mwingine wa kunipa, nakupenda sana’. Maneno kama haya hutumii
nguvu wala muda mwingi kuyafikisha kwa mpenzi wako lakini uzito wake ni mkubwa. Kwanza anajihisi aliyekamilika kwa kufikia hatua ya kufanya mambo yakamridhisha mpenzi wake na kwa mazingira hayo anaamini huwezi kumsaliti. Hisia hizo zitamfanya azidi kukupenda. Hilo ni kwa wote yaani kwa mwanaume na mwanamke. Lakini pia unapomsifia mpenzi wako kwa yale anayokufanyia, unamfanya aongeze kasi ya
kukufanyia ili nawe uzidi kumpenda. Kwa mfano, unapokutana na mpenzi wako kisha ukamwambia ‘umependeza kweli mpenzi wangu, nazidi kukupenda kwa unavyovaa’. Mtu anayeambiwa maneno haya
atajitahidi sana siku zote aonekane nadhifu na wa kuvutia kwa mpenzi wake akijua kwamba, akivaa ilimradi kuvaa hatamfurahisha mpenzi wake. Kwa maana hiyo kumsifia mpenzi wako kunamfanya azidi kuwa bora. Lakini kusifia kusiwe kwa kinafiki. Usimsifie mpenzi wako eti ili kumfanya ajione bora kumbe katika uhalisia siyo hivyo.
Tusifiane pale inapobidi huku tukijua kuwa kwa kufanya hivyo tutapata faida. Tusiwe na tabia ya kuchukulia poa kila tunachofanyiwa na wapenzi wetu. Kama kakuridhisha kimapenzi, msifie kwamba yeye ni muhimu kwako kwa kuwa amekupa ulichotarajia. Amekupikia chakula kizuri, msifie kuwa yeye ni mpishi mzuri. Hiyo italinogesha penzi na utashangaa kila siku inayokwenda kwa Mungu penzi lenu linachanua.
Lakini mbali na hayo, unatakiwa kuridhika kwa kile unachokipata kutoka kwa huyo mpenzi wako ulinaye kwa sasa. Najua kwenye uhusiano wengi tumetoka mbali. Wapo waliowahi kuwa na wapenzi zaidi ya mmoja huko nyuma na kila mmoja alikuwa na kiwango chake cha kukuridhisha.
Inawezekana kuna ambaye unamkumbuka kwa mapenzi mazito aliyokuwa anakupa zaidi ya huyo uliyenaye. Hiyo ni historia, imepita! Kama huyo uliyenaye si mtaalam sana wa kukufikisha pale unapopata, ridhika na hicho kidogo unachokipata endapo atakuwa anaonesha kukupenda kwa dhati.Mpe moyo, msifiesifie kidogo kwa hiyo furaha kiduchu anayokupa huku ukiamini kuwa, atabadilika kadiri siku zinavyokwenda.
Kumbuka cha msingi katika maisha yetu ni kumpata mtu mwenye mapenzi ya kweli na si kumpata anayeweza kukuridhisha katika mambo kadha wa kadha.
WHY DO MEN LIE???
Hahahahaaaa!!!! Mniruhusu nicheke kwanza....
Girls, you wanna know????
Sababu chache kwanini Wanaume ni waongo hizi hapa:
1. WANAJUA
Uongo wa Mwanaume ni kama muvi...Kabla hajadanganya anapanga angle zote na majibu,ana-anticipate ataongea nn,utamjibuje,utamuuliza nn,na atakujibu nini...Wanawake hamuwezi,huwa mnapanic,na siku zote ukipanic umefeli
2. HATA TUKISEMA KWELI
MNADHANI TUNADANGANYA
Hii ndo ilivyo,na inaudhi...Kwa sababu tunadanganya sana,hata pale tunaposema kweli basi nyie mnatuona wezi...So hakuna maana kusema kweli,bora tuendelee na PHD ya uongo tu-graduate
3. WANAWAKE WANAPENDA UONGO
Japo hawasemi lakini hili tumeliprove,Wanawake ukimwambia uongo ndo anapenda...whether kwa kujua au kwa kutokujua...Ukimwambia ukweli anakuona hamnazo...Ukimwambia Mwanamke kweli Utajuta....Itakuwa ndo wimbo bora wa mwaka...Masimago na Rewind button...Mwaka mzima,ukikosea tu wanarewind ulichokiri..Waulize Wanaume waliowahi kukiri kucheat wakusimulie,wanajuta kwanini walikuwa na mahaba kuliko
4. UONGO KWENYE MAPENZI NI NDIMU KWENYE SUPU
Mapenzi ni sanaa na sayansi....Mapenzi sio engineering! Kama ndimu kwa supu ndivyo Uongo kwenye mahaba...kuna vitu unajua umedanganywa lakini unatolewa macho makavu inabidi uwe mpole..inabaki kama drama,na inaleta ladha flani ambayo ni ngumu kuielezea,japo wanawake wanaweza kuielezea how they feel pale ambapo wanajua wamedanganywa lakini hawana proof kwamba ule ni uongo...Mwanaume anashinda kirahisi...inabakia kama assignment flani hivi kwa Mwanamke kwamba next time lazima awe wise kidogo
kumkamata...Na hiyo ndo ladha yenyewe na vionjo vya mahaba
SISEMI MDANGANYE,ILA NDIMU KIDOGO TU SUPU IPATE KUKUPA HAMU
Girls, you wanna know????
Sababu chache kwanini Wanaume ni waongo hizi hapa:
1. WANAJUA
Uongo wa Mwanaume ni kama muvi...Kabla hajadanganya anapanga angle zote na majibu,ana-anticipate ataongea nn,utamjibuje,utamuuliza nn,na atakujibu nini...Wanawake hamuwezi,huwa mnapanic,na siku zote ukipanic umefeli
2. HATA TUKISEMA KWELI
MNADHANI TUNADANGANYA
Hii ndo ilivyo,na inaudhi...Kwa sababu tunadanganya sana,hata pale tunaposema kweli basi nyie mnatuona wezi...So hakuna maana kusema kweli,bora tuendelee na PHD ya uongo tu-graduate
3. WANAWAKE WANAPENDA UONGO
Japo hawasemi lakini hili tumeliprove,Wanawake ukimwambia uongo ndo anapenda...whether kwa kujua au kwa kutokujua...Ukimwambia ukweli anakuona hamnazo...Ukimwambia Mwanamke kweli Utajuta....Itakuwa ndo wimbo bora wa mwaka...Masimago na Rewind button...Mwaka mzima,ukikosea tu wanarewind ulichokiri..Waulize Wanaume waliowahi kukiri kucheat wakusimulie,wanajuta kwanini walikuwa na mahaba kuliko
4. UONGO KWENYE MAPENZI NI NDIMU KWENYE SUPU
Mapenzi ni sanaa na sayansi....Mapenzi sio engineering! Kama ndimu kwa supu ndivyo Uongo kwenye mahaba...kuna vitu unajua umedanganywa lakini unatolewa macho makavu inabidi uwe mpole..inabaki kama drama,na inaleta ladha flani ambayo ni ngumu kuielezea,japo wanawake wanaweza kuielezea how they feel pale ambapo wanajua wamedanganywa lakini hawana proof kwamba ule ni uongo...Mwanaume anashinda kirahisi...inabakia kama assignment flani hivi kwa Mwanamke kwamba next time lazima awe wise kidogo
kumkamata...Na hiyo ndo ladha yenyewe na vionjo vya mahaba
SISEMI MDANGANYE,ILA NDIMU KIDOGO TU SUPU IPATE KUKUPA HAMU
TAMBUA JINSI YA KUONGEA NA MPENZI WAKO ANAPOKUWA AMEKASIRIKA.
Kwenye mapenzi kuna nyakati za kutofautiana na kukasirishana. Katika hali ya kawaida, kipindi hiki huwa ni cha hatari kwa sababu husababisha ufa mkubwa wa uhusiano na kulifanya penzi kukosa ladha.
Sote tunajua kuwa watu hupigana, huachana, hujeruhiana, hutukanana na hudhalilishana wakiwa na hasira. Hata hivyo, si wote wanaojua wafanye nini wanapoingia kwenye hatua hiyo mbaya.Ndugu msomaji wangu,
hebu jaribu kukumbuka ugomvi mmoja uliotokea kati yako na mpenzi wako na ikiwezekana jikumbushe mlivyoanza! Utabaini kuwa mlianza kama utani na mkajikuta mmefura kwa hasira, mkatwangana makonde, mkatamkiana maneno makali ya kuudhi na pengine mkaamua kuachana. Yote hii ni kwa sababu mlikosa elimu ya mazungumzo. Ingekuwa mmoja wenu hasa yule aliyekuwa wa pili kukasirika anafahamu hatua za kuzungumza na mtu aliyekasirika angechukua jukumu la kutuliza machafuko na kuleta amani kwenye mapenzi.
Zifuatazo ni hatua tano za kuzungumza na mpenzi aliyekasirika:
1. MPUNGUZE MHEMKO
Hasira hujaza kifua, huathiri mzunguko wa damu na ufahamu. Mtu aliyekasirika huwa vigumu kwake kusikiliza au kutazama mambo kwa jicho la tatu. Mwenye hasira huwa hafikirii matokeo yajayo badala yake hutazama zaidi tukio na jinsi ya kupata ushindi, iwe kwa maneno au kwa mapambano. Katika hali ya namna hiyo, mtu mwingine akija na busara za kutaka kumgeuza haraka haraka hawezi kumuelewa. Jambo la muhimu hapo ni kuacha kumwandama, kujibizana naye au kumshawishi akusikilize. Badala yake mpe nafasi ya kusema atakavyo, abwate ajuavyo huku wewe ukimuitikia na kumkubalia lawama zake.“Basi mpenzi mwenye makosa ni mimi.” Kauli za aina hii zitampunguza hasira kwani atajiona mshindi.
2. MSOME SAIKOLOJIA YAKE
Kwa kuwa unamfahamu mpenzi wako kwa kina, itakuwa rahisi kwako kumtambua kuwa amepunguza hasira na kurudi katika hali yake ya kawaida. Ukilifahamu hilo chukua jukumu la kumsoma kisaikolojia ili kujua kama yuko kwenye hali nzuri ya kusikiliza yale uliyotaka kumwambia wakati alipokuwa na hasira.
Zoezi hili linaweza kuchukua saa kadhaa na wakati mwingine hata siku mbili. Lengo ni nini? Ni kupata matokeo sahihi ya kuondoa chuki za mwenza wako na kumfundisha madhara ya kukasirika kwenye uhusiano wenu wa kimapenzi. “Nakupenda sana, lakini juzi uliniumiza, uliniambia mimi malaya kwa kosa ambalo sikulifanya” Bila shaka muda huo atakusikiliza zaidi kuliko ungebishana naye alipokuwa na hasira.
3. MRUHUSU AKUJIBU
Pamoja na kumsoma kisaikolojia na kumwambia kinagaubaga makosa yake, usimzuie kujitetea. Mpe nafasi ya kuzungumzia kilichomkasirisha. “Unaona bado unanitukana, sasa naamini siku ile ulikuwa umedhamiria.” Usisiseme hivyo, mwache ajibu hoja hata kama atakuwa anakukandamiza na kuzidi kujijengea ushindi Mvumilie aoshe ubongo wake.
4. EPUKA MALUMBANO
Kama nilivyosema hapo juu, wapenzi wengine huwa wagumu kuelewa, ni watu wa kuficha udhaifu wao na kutopenda kuonekana wamekosea. Watu wa namna hii unapowarejeshea mazungumzo wanaweza kuhamaki tena. “Kwa hiyo ulikuwa unasemaje… nilifanya ndiyo,… wewe unaamuaje?” Mkifika kwenye hatua kama hiyo usikubali kulumbana naye, muache aseme halafu wewe ingia kwenye hatua ya tano.
5. MUOMBE MSAMAHA
Hata kama atakuwa yeye ndiye mwenye makosa na amekataa kukiri, usijali, chukua jukumu la kumuomba msamaha na kueleza tena nia yako ya kuzungumza ilikuwa ni kuelewana si kugombana. Kumbuka hata kama amekiri kosa, bado unatakiwa kumuomba radhi kwa kurejea yaliyopita.
“Mpenzi inawezekana nikawa nimekuudhi kwa niliyoyasema, nakuomba sana tusameheane.”
Bila shaka kwa haya machache utakuwa umejifunza na kuchukua hatua za kuzuia migogoro
mikubwa inayotokana na hasira za mpenzi wako.
Sote tunajua kuwa watu hupigana, huachana, hujeruhiana, hutukanana na hudhalilishana wakiwa na hasira. Hata hivyo, si wote wanaojua wafanye nini wanapoingia kwenye hatua hiyo mbaya.Ndugu msomaji wangu,
hebu jaribu kukumbuka ugomvi mmoja uliotokea kati yako na mpenzi wako na ikiwezekana jikumbushe mlivyoanza! Utabaini kuwa mlianza kama utani na mkajikuta mmefura kwa hasira, mkatwangana makonde, mkatamkiana maneno makali ya kuudhi na pengine mkaamua kuachana. Yote hii ni kwa sababu mlikosa elimu ya mazungumzo. Ingekuwa mmoja wenu hasa yule aliyekuwa wa pili kukasirika anafahamu hatua za kuzungumza na mtu aliyekasirika angechukua jukumu la kutuliza machafuko na kuleta amani kwenye mapenzi.
Zifuatazo ni hatua tano za kuzungumza na mpenzi aliyekasirika:
1. MPUNGUZE MHEMKO
Hasira hujaza kifua, huathiri mzunguko wa damu na ufahamu. Mtu aliyekasirika huwa vigumu kwake kusikiliza au kutazama mambo kwa jicho la tatu. Mwenye hasira huwa hafikirii matokeo yajayo badala yake hutazama zaidi tukio na jinsi ya kupata ushindi, iwe kwa maneno au kwa mapambano. Katika hali ya namna hiyo, mtu mwingine akija na busara za kutaka kumgeuza haraka haraka hawezi kumuelewa. Jambo la muhimu hapo ni kuacha kumwandama, kujibizana naye au kumshawishi akusikilize. Badala yake mpe nafasi ya kusema atakavyo, abwate ajuavyo huku wewe ukimuitikia na kumkubalia lawama zake.“Basi mpenzi mwenye makosa ni mimi.” Kauli za aina hii zitampunguza hasira kwani atajiona mshindi.
2. MSOME SAIKOLOJIA YAKE
Kwa kuwa unamfahamu mpenzi wako kwa kina, itakuwa rahisi kwako kumtambua kuwa amepunguza hasira na kurudi katika hali yake ya kawaida. Ukilifahamu hilo chukua jukumu la kumsoma kisaikolojia ili kujua kama yuko kwenye hali nzuri ya kusikiliza yale uliyotaka kumwambia wakati alipokuwa na hasira.
Zoezi hili linaweza kuchukua saa kadhaa na wakati mwingine hata siku mbili. Lengo ni nini? Ni kupata matokeo sahihi ya kuondoa chuki za mwenza wako na kumfundisha madhara ya kukasirika kwenye uhusiano wenu wa kimapenzi. “Nakupenda sana, lakini juzi uliniumiza, uliniambia mimi malaya kwa kosa ambalo sikulifanya” Bila shaka muda huo atakusikiliza zaidi kuliko ungebishana naye alipokuwa na hasira.
3. MRUHUSU AKUJIBU
Pamoja na kumsoma kisaikolojia na kumwambia kinagaubaga makosa yake, usimzuie kujitetea. Mpe nafasi ya kuzungumzia kilichomkasirisha. “Unaona bado unanitukana, sasa naamini siku ile ulikuwa umedhamiria.” Usisiseme hivyo, mwache ajibu hoja hata kama atakuwa anakukandamiza na kuzidi kujijengea ushindi Mvumilie aoshe ubongo wake.
4. EPUKA MALUMBANO
Kama nilivyosema hapo juu, wapenzi wengine huwa wagumu kuelewa, ni watu wa kuficha udhaifu wao na kutopenda kuonekana wamekosea. Watu wa namna hii unapowarejeshea mazungumzo wanaweza kuhamaki tena. “Kwa hiyo ulikuwa unasemaje… nilifanya ndiyo,… wewe unaamuaje?” Mkifika kwenye hatua kama hiyo usikubali kulumbana naye, muache aseme halafu wewe ingia kwenye hatua ya tano.
5. MUOMBE MSAMAHA
Hata kama atakuwa yeye ndiye mwenye makosa na amekataa kukiri, usijali, chukua jukumu la kumuomba msamaha na kueleza tena nia yako ya kuzungumza ilikuwa ni kuelewana si kugombana. Kumbuka hata kama amekiri kosa, bado unatakiwa kumuomba radhi kwa kurejea yaliyopita.
“Mpenzi inawezekana nikawa nimekuudhi kwa niliyoyasema, nakuomba sana tusameheane.”
Bila shaka kwa haya machache utakuwa umejifunza na kuchukua hatua za kuzuia migogoro
mikubwa inayotokana na hasira za mpenzi wako.
FANTASTIC QUOTES
True
love leaves a memory no one can steal and a heartache no one can heal.
Remember, the journey of a
thousand miles begins with the first step
Stop spending time with the wrong
people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness
out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You
shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who
continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand
by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when
you’re at your worst
Maybe God wants us to meet a few
wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the
right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift.
Being sad with the right people
is better than being happy with the wrong ones
Belive that:
God puts people in your life for a reason and
remove them from yor life for a better reason...
God puts people in your life for a reason and
remove them from yor life for a better reason...
Most important time to hold your
temper, is when the other person has lost it...!
Be
happy. Be yourself. If others dont like it, then let them be. Happiness is a
choice. Life isn't about pleasing everybody
The
biggest blessings in our life is simply the presence of people who care much,
whose love is real & see us much beyond ourselves.
It’s
amazing how one word from the
right person can make you feel
better in a second
right person can make you feel
better in a second
Your
future is created by what you do today, not tomorrow
Find
someone who knows that
youre not perfect, but treats you as
if you are.
youre not perfect, but treats you as
if you are.
Worry
does not empty tomorrow of
its sorrow, it empties today of its
strength
its sorrow, it empties today of its
strength
Boys,
don't ever make your girl feel like she is in competition with any other girl
You
don't need to unbutton a girls shirt just to get a better view of her heart
I
fell in love with the most
unexpected person on the most
unexpected time.
unexpected person on the most
unexpected time.
“Never
put off until tomorrow what you can do the day after tomorrow.
The
opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. The opposite of art is not
ugliness, it's indifference. The opposite of faith is not heresy, it's
indifference. And the opposite of life is not death, it's indifference
Never
trust a person with only one Facebook picture
Beautiful
things can happen in your life when you distance yourself from all the negative
things
No
matter how much pain you have inside, there is always enough reason to survive
and move forward in your life’s journey because there is always a beautiful
tomorrow with a beautiful promise waiting for us. No matter how much pain you
are going through, the real test is when you feel that others pain are more
important to you than your own and you try to heal them before thinking about
yourself. Selfless help is the purest form of help. That is the way we can be
close to God and humanity. When you help someone, you should never think about
any conditions, any reasons. Be pure in everything that you do in your life.
Please be compassionate towards each other. A few words of kindness could go a
very long way.
After
Expiry Date,POISON is More Poisonous OR Less Poisonous???
Martin
Luther king Jr wrote: Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see
the whole stairscase
Sometimes
you have to realize some people can stay in your heart, but not in your life
When
people lie directly to your face after you've ask for the truth
STOP
CRYING OVER SOMEONE WHO PLAYED WITH YOUR DELICATE HEART
"The
Person Who Tries To Keep
Everyone Happy Is Always The Most
Lonely Person,
So Never Leave Them Alone Because
They Will Never Say They Need You
Everyone Happy Is Always The Most
Lonely Person,
So Never Leave Them Alone Because
They Will Never Say They Need You
Sometimes
i can't give words to my stupid feelings!!
Worry
does not empty tomorrow of
its sorrow, it empties today of its
strength.
its sorrow, it empties today of its
strength.
Find
someone who knows that
youre not perfect, but treats you as
if you are
youre not perfect, but treats you as
if you are
It’s
amazing how one word from the
right person can make you feel
better in a second.
right person can make you feel
better in a second.
I
fell in love with the most
unexpected person on the most
unexpected time
unexpected person on the most
unexpected time
Life is a game, Play it. Life is
a challenge, Meet it. Life is an opportunity, Capture it
You were born to be real, not to
be perfect. You are here to be you, not to live someone else's life
I don't understand how people can
erase you from their lives ‘cause it’s just easier than working things out.
With God, anyone can be a
champion, because He brings out the best in us
Whoever said "words don't
hurt" is a liar. Words can rip your heart apart, make you cry and end
relationships.
Someday you'll miss her like she
missed you. Someday you'll need her like she needed you. Someday you'll love
her and she won't love you
Strong women wear their pain like
stilettos. No matter how much it hurts, all you see is the beauty of it
3 steps to move on. CTRL + ALT +
DEL. Control yourself, look for an alternate solution, and delete the situation
that hurts you
Ladies, a man can either upgrade
you.. or destroy everything you've ever worked for. Choose wisely
Carry yourself like a queen &
you'll attract a king but if you carry yourself like a hoe, see how far you go
God puts people in your life for
a reason, and removes them from your life for a better reason. Some people are
only in your life to test you, until you stand up and say enough is enough. I
am worth more than you offer me. Do not chase people. Be you, do your own thing
and work hard. The right people who belong in your life will come to you, and
stay
No lady deserves to go through
pregnancy alone, because I've never met one woman in my life who got pregnant
on her own.
Even if you don't love her still remain by her side and raise that child, because its not about what you owe her; its all about what you owe that child
Even if you don't love her still remain by her side and raise that child, because its not about what you owe her; its all about what you owe that child
People ask me why it's so hard to
trust people , and I ask them why is it so hard to keep it real.
Stop seeing yourself through the
eyes of others, you will never be able to live up to their expectations and it
will leave you feeling broken and insecure… Rather see yourself as the
beautiful soul God made you to be and know He made you to do great things…
“I love everybody. Some I love to
be around, some I love to avoid, and others I would love to punch in the face
Beautiful prayer
God when i lose hope,
Help me to remember that
your love is greater than my disappointments
'n your plan 4 my life are better than my Dreams
God when i lose hope,
Help me to remember that
your love is greater than my disappointments
'n your plan 4 my life are better than my Dreams
He ignores you, but you like him.
He does nothing, but you fall for him. You miss him, even though you know he
will never care
You have every reason to smile. ..and ...We sometimes
under-estimate the influence of the simplest things...Now...go light up the
world with it
What hurts the most is being so
close and then all of a sudden becoming so distant
6 Keys to a great relationship: friendship,
freedom, honesty, trust, understanding, and communication
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